I asked him why he reached out to me, what made him think it was OK to offer himself as a sub to me.
He said he thought I looked lovely and was just taking a chance.
Further prodding revealed he had explored some sub behavior with another older black woman.
He liked the maturity of black women and how we don't put up with a lot of bullshit.
He went to work wearing them that same day and frequently texted me his thanks.
Seeing him in the bikinis did nothing for me sexually, but making him wear them did give me a rush.
Small things like forbidding him from interrupting me while I talked were thrilling.
I made sure never to punish in anger, but being able to express my anger and his fear of it were exciting — and I didn't have to worry about him passive-aggressively punishing me for my anger by hanging out all night with his friends or by flirting with other women, or even cheating.
After a few messages, I gave him my Google Voice number and we began texting.For example, he told me he liked to watch joi porn.After a quick search, I discovered the world of "jerk off instruction." I'd later use the genre as a tool to punish him.He said white women his age were vapid and frequently dismissed him because of his youthful appearance.Because of his age and appearance, I didn't feel threatened by his ignorance, even though his desire for a Strong Black Woman to take control of him sexually was an echo of other messages I'd received via Ok Cupid.After a week or two of texting, we met in person at a café.